What's Important?
Ever since I turned 25, my view of life has transformed into this more sincere, decisive and genuine perspective. I suppose its me finally taking life seriously and concluding I must make more decisive choices as it pertains to my well being. Simply put, for me its been the first hump in my maturation and for that I am grateful. After all not everyone is blessed to see their 25th birthday. Now, at 26 I've narrowed down what I must do to sustain my peace of mind and stay sane is this chaotic world that we live in. Below I have outlined 6 things that I believe are imperative for one to prosper, succeed and most importantly sustain peace of mind. This year I finally realized that my sanity is just that.. "my sanity" and I must not let others cripple my thought process or my self esteem, it took me 26 years to finally say no and not put someone elses happiness over mine. Can you imagine living a life pleasing others while you are dying inside? Yup, that was me for a long time. It took breaking up from my first love, a crippling mother daughter relationship and failing graduate school for me to realize that my happiness is just as important as others.
6 Things to Prioritize to Sustain Peace of Mind
1. Keeping God First
If and when you feel alone and think there is no one else by your side, there is ALWAYS God. I have not always been religious, prayerful or a strong dedicated Christian but this year I rededicated my life to Christ and actually joined a church. And for those that know me, this was a life changing experience to say the least and I am super excited! I still am growing in the word of Christ but I now realize having a relationship with God will ultimately sustain my peace of mind. I am not where I want to be yet but I am not who and where I used to be! Amen!
2. Maintaining Friendships
I struggle with this daily. Its not often I pick up the phone and call a friend to ask how they are doing but the older I get the more I realize how important it is to maintain friendships and have a inner circle of friends that support you. So the next time you think about a friend you have not heard from in a while, pick up the phone and call him or her. After all it only takes a few minutes to make a phone call and ask how are you doing?
3. Family is Foundation
I grew up in a single parent household as an only child and from that I am naturally comfortable with being alone. Recently, I've been labeled as self alienating myself which is practically a recluse. But I digress, family is Important and they serve as your foundation! This year has brought about some tough times for me and my family heard about my troubles because I was too proud to admit I needed help. When there is just you and God there is also family to depend on. In addition to maintaining friendship, maintaining family relationships should be priority too.
4. Education is Unending
I over heard my mother once say, Courtney will be in school forever. And the truth is she may be right! As my mother and perhaps others have observed I am a student of the world and with that mindset I believe education is unending. I believe there is always time to feed my mind and perhaps earn another degree, certificate or license. With the economy we live in now and as we proceed, the demand for highly skilled and talented human capital is increasing. However, for me education is a treat! I first discovered my passion for learning as a student of the illustrious Spelman College.
5. Love is a Gift
For the past two years, I've made my mistakes and have learned that love is a gift. A gift that should be cherished and nurtured. To find someone who loves you with your flaws is a unique blessing. I believe sex can fool you into love and that some of us can mistake lust for love. For the ladies, remember to always be true to yourself and not think having sex with a man will keep him in your life. Hold true to your values and love shall find you.
6. Life is for the Living
All to often I've heard this cliche quote life is for the living but the older I get the more it reigns true. Life is for the Living! And I have not been doing enough living. So, always remember to set aside some time to have fun. Too often I work and stress myself to the brink and forget that life is also to have fun. Yes, I am definitely guilty for not having enough fun and maintaining a balance of work and fun in my life. So in addition to all that I've already mentioned also set aside some time to have some fun and live your life. It's never too late to do what you have always wanted to do.
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